"I've never seen someone describe how the mind works and how it influences our lives as clearly as Dr. Sonya H. Cha in The Underlying Dilemma. In simple terms that anyone can understand and with helpful examples we can all recognize, she puts on a masterclass in how to deal with baggage from our parents or our childhood in order to reach a place of peace and sustainable happiness. How do we balance our needs with our careers and relationships and goals? This book has the answers, and I recommend it to anyone who wants to make improvements to their lives and well-being." - J.J. Hebert, USA Today Bestselling Author Why is it so difficult to love yourself and understand the underlying issues to your problems? In our fast-paced world, it feels like there is not enough time, money, energy, or mental capacity to pursue everything. What is the secret to managing all this and making room to help ourselves find balance in our lives? There's a conflict between our need to be loved unconditionally and the limited support we get from this conditional world. We call the mental state we need to reach a self-approbated ego. You will see how the integration of mental health and spirituality can improve your quality of life. Discover how the ego works with ego plasticity to shed light on identity and relationship issues, while finding sustainable happiness and improving self-esteem. The subconscious naturally seeks unconditional love and respect. This process toward self-approbation can further expand our capabilities in this ever-changing world. Dr. Sonya H. Cha is a graduate from Fuller Theological Seminary School of Psychology, practicing as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with a Ph.D. in Performance Psychology, and working as a part-time university professor. This approach to life is one she benefited from herself. There were long periods of time when things seemed impossible, from raising four kids, working full-time, managing a Ph.D. program, and founded a group practice, Center for Integrated Care that provides mental health and psychiatry services to the community. Through her spirituality and self-approbated ego, she was able to manage all of this and more, while passionately fulfilling her dreams. Her area of specialty includes trauma-focused treatment, couples therapy, family therapy, and Christian counseling. Her passion is to unearth potential and optimize capacities for people so that they can live healthier lives. Every life has an element of strug