To reduce the pressure and enjoy greater closeness within the family, Allender advises parents to allow God to use the children to help the parent grow up. Here, Allender shows parents how they can learn from their children's quirks, failures, and normal childhood dilemmas, rather than worrying about whether they are doing everything right as a parent.
Parenting with Humility...We often realize that we learn as much from our children as they learn from us. So why don't parents approach the task of child-rearing as a learning experience, rather than a mandate to make sure their kids succeed in life?

To reduce the pressure and enjoy greater closeness in your family, turn your parenting upside-down by allowing God to use your children to help you grow up. Imagine what would happen if you began to prize what you're being taught by your children's quirks, failures, and normal childhood dilemmas, rather than worrying about whether you're doing everything right as a parent. Now you can let go of the pressure to make sure your children succeed, and instead learn to grow into spiritual maturity by listening to your children.